I know this, but yesterday, I couldn’t help but end a long, tiring day with tons of Haitian bread and dairy-laden coffee (dairy is another thing my body isn’t a fan of).
There was a time that I would berate myself for days for having a meal like this. I would drown in a shame spiral because I didn’t eat the “right thing.”
These days, I understand what these moments are about. And I know I’m not alone in having moments like these.
We all have them.
Jennifer Louden calls them “shadow comforts.” All those things we do to numb out instead of being fully present to our own lives.
We all do it.
I’d add that these moments aren’t all about numbing out. They’re about our Spirit calling out for something that, in that moment, we aren’t ready to respond to in a life-giving way.
If you find yourself in that moment, forgive yourself.
And remember that your Spirit isn’t stupid. If it’s calling out for something, that call is valid, real and worth honoring.
Don’t shame yourself and your Spirit for wanting comfort, companionship, love or peace. You deserve all of those things and more.
But if you’re finding yourself responding to those needs in ways that don’t add life-affirming energy ask yourself why?
Are there any ways to fill your very real need that are life-affirming?
My spirit was calling for rest, silence and calm. My hypersensitive self was overstimulated. So today, I’m honoring my need with a long, hot shower, self-massage with organic sesame oil and a good night’s sleep.